Sunday, April 20, 2008

Don't Mess With Me, Mo-Fo!

Yesterday evening at dusk (about 8:30 p.m.), as I was walking out of the Port Huron Meijer’s store with my daughter, Kayla, a most unusual thing occurred. We were proceeding through the parking lot toward my car with a couple bags of groceries when we suddenly heard a woman’s scream. It was just one scream, but filled with angst and tears, I could tell. And it was slightly muffled, as if someone were trying to stifle it. My daughter and I glanced at each other then looked around as we approached my vehicle, trying to discern from which direction it had come. We saw nothing. We heard nothing. As we got into my car, I suddenly had the oddest feeling strike me. As a result, I decided at that moment not to leave directly, but to quickly drive up and down a few rows of cars just to take a peek.

As I neared the end of the row we had been parked in, I suddenly saw it – a man struggling with a woman, attempting to get her into a mini-van. She had her feet firmly planted on the asphalt pavement and her arms spread wide, holding on for dear life to each side of the sliding door while he was trying to dislodge her grip and shove her inside, covering her mouth with one hand. She was terrified. He was pissed.

Shocked and furious, barely thinking - I stopped my car abruptly and shouted to my daughter, “lay on the car horn, and don’t let up”. I got out and ran toward the man, screaming, “Hey mother fucker, let her go!”, then BOOM! - slammed a wicked front kick right into his face as he turned his head my direction, having been startled by both my screaming approach as well as my car horn blaring.

Well, thank God it was enough!

Enough to draw the attention of other passersby, who decently stopped to see what the ruckus was all about and help out. Enough of a distraction for the poor lady to break free from her struggle. Enough to have put an abrupt end to what was about to become a very violent crime that would likely have changed the life of the victim forever. Enough.

Of course, some of the men in the parking lot subdued the would-be attacker until the police arrived. I believe they even landed a few of their own blows at his face and gut in the process. Good for them. And I did my very best to hug and comfort the poor woman, who was absolutely terrified afterwards.

Ladies, do yourselves a favor. Stay alert. Be prepared. Always. Take a self defense class. Keep in shape. Don’t shop alone. Carry pepper spray or mace...something. Be proactive in not becoming the victim in today’s backwards society. There are bad people in the world. I live in a very GOOD area, and this still happened. I am NOT a big person (5’7”, 118 lbs.) and under certain circumstances I may not have been effective in helping this woman – but I am a martial artist. And for the first time in my life, I was very thankful for the past three years of time and grueling dedication that I’ve put into training, as it allowed me to react instinctively in a dangerous situation without fear. (Although, I was pretty shaken up afterwards, when the adrenaline rush wore off). proved useful to aid in helping another. It was worth it.

The choices we make today affect the quality of life we have tomorrow. Choose wisely.


Sogeshirtsguy said...

Wow Kim you are incredibly brave and probably saved this woman's life or at the very least from great harm. Kudos to your daughter as well and to the men that stepped in and fought. You are all heroes!

EuroYank said...

and I thought you were a scatter brain, and could not handle or comprehend things. well at least when it comes to screaming your mouth is as mighty as your internet pen!

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Thanks Soge, but no - actually I'm not brave at all. It all happened so fast, I just ACTED. I'm just glad everything turned out alright. I felt really bad for the poor lady. She was a mess.

My husband was really angry w/ me when I got home and told him what happened though. He was like, "Kim - what the hell is wrong with you? That guy could've had a gun or something. Why didn't you just call 911?" I was like - duh! Just walk away?! I was right there while it was happening.

So, maybe I'm not brave at all - just stupid?!


EURO - Now you know darn well that I am a goddess elite with intelligence from on high, that far surpasses most human comprehension!

(You just confuse my scatterbrained-ness with the fact that I'm blond! LOL!) And... um... are you saying that I have a big mouth? Ha! Yeah. It's the cheerleader leftover in me from my youth, what can I say?!

Thanks for the compliment. I'm bowing down at your feet right now, see??


EuroYank said...

Kimba (honey pie, baby cakes, sweetie pie) I just love it when you get your dander up. I would never say you have a big mouth (not directly.) And do not let the fact that you are BLOND get in your WAY! LOL

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Oh, I see. So now you not only would not DIRECTLY say that I have a big mouth, but also are telling me that you have a problem with the fact that I'm blond, too, is it?!

Well, I never... (winking... OK, so I have)

Only joking, Euro. Glad you visited, really!

Guess I have to go over to your blog now and endure some Bush-bashing, machine-lashing, US-trashing talk now, huh?!

Well... ok then... see you there.


Caoimhin said...

Kung-Fu Kimba! Way to go babe! I will now and forever be very careful how I comment on your posts! :)

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Hey Caoimhin - the Japanese style of karate, actually! But close!

And don't worry, you're safe in Ireland! Comment away!


Sogeshirtsguy said...

Maybe you shouldn't have risked yourself like that but i doubt calling the police would have been an option. That girl would have been in the van by then. I still think what you did was brave thinking or not! Really glad the situation turned out like it did with the bad guy getting the worst of it.

Anonymous said...

Well done Kimba girl, KAK is proud of you, Three pats on the head and a BIG hug girl! See my three crosses are looking over my budies too. I don't feel you were stupid, it's nice to know you were quick thinking and acted and have every right to feel proud of yourself. We're all proud of you, you be too.........Dominos etvo bitcum et cum spiri tu tu o!....KAK"S blessing..........well done!

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Thanks again Soge - yeah. I thought that way, too.

KAK - he lives! I thought you flew away on your magic carpet or something!

Thanks for being proud of me, but no - I'm actually not all that proud of myself to be honest. I wrote this blog more so that women could see how important it is to be prepared.

Thanks for the blessings though! (I think... although I have no idea what you said???) My cross is watching out for me, too, I believe.

Peace, dude. Have fun at WORK this week! Ha! Do you remember how to do it? LOL

cooper said...

Good for you. So many wold have probably walked on.
I am all for self defense class. I went to school in a large city and took a self defense class prior to attending.

Kudos to you today.

jo said...

you have saved the woman, but this sounds very dangerous... thank goodness it all ended up fine.

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Hey Cooper, you're a very intelligent young woman, and I'm not surprised at all that you have thought through issues like personal protection already. Kudos to YOU!

Jo, thanks for stopping by. Yes, the potential for danger was certainly there, and I'm grateful that the situation didn't evolve into more than what it did. But all I knew at that moment in time was that if it were my daughter, my mother, or myself, I would have wanted ANYONE to have attempted to intervene in any way that they could to interrupt what was taking place before the woman was shoved into that vehicle and raped, beaten, or perhaps even murdered.

Whether it was my martial arts training or just my own love for another human life that took hold, I cannot say. I only know that I responded in the way (the ONLY way) that I could've lived with my own conscience for the rest of my life.

Sue said...

Be careful Kim, that sounds dangerous. I'm glad you helped and you were able to stop the guy. I know it was a split second decision but next time maybe call 911 first, like your husband said. You never know what this guy could have been capable of. (I guess that's what I would do I'm more of a coward I guess)I'm glad it all worked out. I guess your self defense help out. You Rock Girl! (p.s. thanks for stopping by my blog earlier)

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Hey Sue! You know, after it all was said and done, the whole incident kept playing over and over again in my mind... and I asked myself what, if anything, I could have / should have done differently - or what WOULD I do differently if ever faced with a similar situation in the future.

And... I honestly don't know...

The only thing I MIGHT have done differently was to have not approached the guy with my leg extended into his face like that (because after the fact, I've actually had thoughts like - what if the guy sues me or something for bashing in his face?), but then, to have just STOOD there watching, screaming, trying to get attention, while this poor lady was being attacked - I could not fathom choosing to do so.

Besides, quickly weighing the circumstances and odds (mentally), I knew that if I could physically debilitate him for just a moment, it might have been enough time for somebody else to notice and come help. Obviously, I assessed the situation accurately because help arrived momentarily.

I felt that if I DIDN'T do something to physically launch an attack against the guy, then I ran the risk of him turning on me perhaps, as well, and causing great bodily harm to my own person. I wasn't willing to take that risk, either.

So... I did what I did. I hope I'm never confronted with a similar situation in the future though. But I'll tell you this much, I am DEFINITELY going to insist that my 18 y/o daughter take self defense classes this summer when she's home from college. She's a very beautiful girl and attracts a lot of attention - not always the greatest thing, I'm afraid. Yet, she's never been interested in physical intervention and/or advanced physical management techniques like my youngest daughter and I are. She's a sitting duck if she doesn't wisen up. I've told her so numerous times... just hope it doesn't take something like this happenng in her own life to make her wise.

Footsteps said...

Wow. I understand your husband's fear for your safety (and am thankful you got him with a single kick!), but it sounds like your instincts were fine. Thank goodness you had the training and courage to act on them as quickly and effectively as you did.

I'm realizing anew the need to maintain awareness at all times. My standard reply to concerns for my safety has always been that I can outrun the perverts. Not a good defense...

Thanks for sharing all of this Kim. I'm proud to know you.

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Oh I hear ya there, girlie!

Running is GOOD when perverts are around - unless, of course, they try to TOUCH - then I feel I've been given the go-ahead to "touch" back, usually w/ a knee to the groin area?!?!

Are you able to run yet, Heather??

Buy some pepper spray! =) PLEASE!

Jollyjo said...

Kimba...I had to read over the post to make sure there wasn't a catch. Needless to say that was some unbelievable bravery on your part...thank God everything worked out fine.

BTW...thanks for the prodding (smile)...after all, that's where all the action these days...

NyteGoddessBoo said...

Wow Kimba,
A very touching story. The lioness roared and all heard it. Just like a lioness on the prowl, pouncing the prediator so someone doesn't become the prey. You go girl. You deserve an award of bravery. In todays society not many would have even tried to investigate it much less get involved. You put so to speak " a mothers instinct " into action. A cry for help that was heard. We need to be aware of our surroundings at all times, cuz we never know what is lurking out there. I admire you for taking the time to stop and help someone. I am glad that you told your daughter to stay in the vehicle and lay on the horn. I honestly don't know what I would have done in a situation like that. I give you the bravery award. God bless you for helping another!

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Hello Adrian! Nice to see you. How are things?

Well, as you said - thank God! And, I do! Very much so!

NGB- love you girlie! You would've done the same thing. I know it.

Rouvanne said...

Yikes! Well done Kimba! Now where are the Web 2.0'er with their mobile phones and handycams when the real action is happening!?

Respect - and hopefully that'll have taught that pig some manners for the future!

Keep kicking!

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Hi Rouvanne - ya know, this all happened so fast that there wasn't even time to think of anything like that.

Thanks for stopping by. I hope you're well!

Sue said...

Hey Kim me again, just want to say I keep thinking how you did this and want to say "you are a hero!" You go girl! That's awesome that you stepped up like that! (p.s. Go Sox - lol)

Kimba The White Lioness said...

Wow - Blogger comments is going schizo on me over here- jumping and wacky stuff...

Anyway -

Hey Sue! Thanks for dropping back in, but we BOTH know that you really just dropped by so that you could say -


Right? -sigh- Hmmm?? Thought so.

(Only kidding. Thanks, lady!)

anke-art said...

Hey Kim, I just found your page and have to say "WOW!". This is truly a great example of what we call Zivilcourage - the courage not to ignore but to act if someone is in danger.

I'll definitely put your blog in my rss feed.

Kimba The White Lioness said...

anke-art - I'm flattered by your kindness. Thank you for your words. And I'm happy that you stumbled across my page!

I have to tell you though that my life is generally not as exciting as this event - though I appreciate your subscription, all the same! Just needed to warn you, in case you were anticipating this much drama on a regular basis =).

I had never heard the term zivilcourage before, so thank you for sharing!

Anonymous said...

Way to go Kim! This world needs more people like you in it.

~Sandy G.